How to check in on someone who's struggling

Try this

Hey — no pressure to reply, I just wanted you to know I've been thinking about you. You don't have to be okay or have anything figured out. I'm here whenever, for whatever.

The key: "How are you?" can feel like a test. "No need to reply, I'm just here" opens a door without demanding they walk through it.

Write YOUR exact message → sided does it for you

This is a starting point — but the right words depend on who they are and your history. Tell Sided what you need to say and it writes it in your voice, a few ways.

More hard messages

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cancel plans last minute
tell someone you're not interested
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