How to tell someone they hurt you

Try this

I want to tell you something because pretending I'm fine isn't working: when that happened, it actually hurt. I'm not trying to make you the villain — I just don't want to go quiet and let it turn into distance between us.

The key: Own the feeling without assigning blame. "It hurt when X" invites them in; "you hurt me" puts them on defense.

Write YOUR exact message → sided does it for you

This is a starting point — but the right words depend on who they are and your history. Tell Sided what you need to say and it writes it in your voice, a few ways.

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