Decoding the texts everyone gets
"It's fine" is about the situation; "I'm fine" is about them — and both usually mean it isn't. "It's fine" is permission granted through gritted teeth: you can do the thing, but it's been noted, and it'll be remembered.
If you hear "it's fine," the honest move is to call it gently: "it doesn't sound fine — talk to me." Taking the "fine" at face value is how small things become big ones.
Decode YOUR exact message → it depends on contextThese are the patterns — but the same word means different things from different people. Sided reads your actual conversation and tells you what THIS person means, and what to say back.