Decoding the texts everyone gets
Almost always the opposite. "Whatever" is what people say when they care and have decided that caring out loud isn't safe.
Underneath it: I'm hurt and I don't trust you to handle it if I say so. The move isn't to accept the "whatever" — it's to make it safe enough that they don't need it.
Decode YOUR exact message → it depends on contextThese are the patterns — but the same word means different things from different people. Sided reads your actual conversation and tells you what THIS person means, and what to say back.